Happy Labor Day!!

What a crazy couple of weeks. School starts and the time vacuum starts with it as well, I have no idea where the first two weeks of school went!!

Personally, I have an appointment next week to watch this cyst I have in my ovaries, they swear it's fine and no cancer, they run lots of blood tests, etc. Just wish it would go away and I could put it off my list. A friend of mine who's going through chemo started the "hard" chemo last week and had a rough go, it makes me so sad, it almost brings back my feelings of how I felt during that time. I ran into someone at meet the teacher night and her brother had died May 1st of lung cancer, he was diagnosed about two months after I was. I just started crying in the middle of meet the teacher, sigh, thank goodness the school is really small and the teachers really know me!! I swear, you could be my worst enemy and if you tell me you have cancer, I'm gonna be your best friend.

More fun times in my life, being a mother of teenage boys. William broke up with his girlfriend this last week. Breakups are hard enough, but he didn't just break up with her, he broke up with her mother as well. Ridiculous. The mom started texting ME wanting answers (REALLY-this is HIGH SCHOOL- they aren't married, or engaged or promised-they are just in HIGH SCHOOL) THEN the mother posted on Facebook " I know I've said this before, but it bears repeating, I HATE teenage boys" then texted me as though I couldn't read her post. Seriously, lady!!! I just hope he gets his jacket back. I remember when I was in high school and I had a boy break my heart. I'm guessing I might have acted a tad bit like Will's ex gf. I might have been a bit clingy and talked about the future. I didn't get it then, but I sure get it now, 17 year old boys don't want to talk about the future or be texted every 30 seconds. They just want to see what having a girlfriend is all about.

I really love Facebook, but I can see where it is allowing parents the ability to parent wayyyyyy past their parenting years. I took a lesson from it myself, they have to make mistakes, they have to learn, they have to "almost get caught" and the parents don't need to know. How will they ever grow up if they don't. What kids need to understand is Facebook isn't an open diary, or at least don't treat it like one.

I know a friend who's daughter's job is to READ Facebook for a living for undergraduate admissions to a university. She reads the parents pages, the siblings pages, the grandparents pages, the aunt/uncles, you get it. When I found that out, I promptly changed ALL of our privacy things and had a chat with my kids. Innocent pictures can change a lot.

It really isn't fair to our kids, they get no chances to screw up. I mean none. They can't have any sort of police mishap and get into college, they can't post one wrong thing and get into college, they can't learn from any mistakes because they can't make any mistakes and this is what is making parenting so hard. If you take the approach that your parents gave you, and you miss that one mistake, it can completely derail a child,

So where do today's parents draw the line. Do you quietly monitor all the postings, pics, blogs, etc or do you interactively (I'm talking about in junior-senior year of high school) participate? I don't know the answer, I'm going through it day by day. But I know one thing for sure, a common high school break up has caused a division in my Facebook friends, isn't that sad?