I vote for all three. I don't know why, but part of this whole cancer fiasco is that I want help and need help and love help and then ECT says no help do it yourself. I wonder why..........but don't want to wonder too long because I can't do cancer and a complete personal dissection the same year. I have lots of personality flaws, but my friends/family seem to just love me for who I am and they seem to want to help.
I am just wondering why I am having such a personal struggle with this.......any thoughts.....??
I think also the offers tend to come when you are actually feeling okay so you naturally think "I'm fine; I don't need to be a burden to anyone." But the reality of chemo is you only have so much energy and can only do so much. So while you could perhaps make dinner, you then won't have energy to just talk with or enjoy your family, or you'll have to sleep more and not walk the dog or some such thing.. So think of it as helping your family...and let folks bring you dinner.Also, people like to feeling like they are doing something to help. So see, by accepting the help, you're really being a giver. ;-) (not that I was good at it all!!)
ReplyDeleteBecause you are you!.. Your perfect no matter what!.. You are use to being the helper not the reciever of the help, and theres nothing wrong with that. And as your friend said as of right now your are feeling well and not ready to accept the help and people need to understand that this is just the start and there will be plenty of time that you will be willing to accept the help!.. Keep superwoman cape on your doing a great job!..
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